6 Tips for a Fulfilling Life

Fulfillment is a feeling of happiness and satisfaction with your life.

This is one aspect of my life and of that of others that I have strived to understand and achieve. In recent years I have felt more fulfilled than previously and in many ways being at home through lockdown I have re-connected with my own sense of fulfillment and purpose in life.

At a time, when many are feeling unsettled and apprehensively excited with our promised ‘new normal’, I thought I would share my 6 favourite tips to achieving and maintaining fulfillment.

1. Acceptance and balance

More often than not, many people focus on the things that they don’t have in life. Often, in my coaching sessions, I hear clients describe a need for perfection in their work and in their lives, overall. Or they describe how they ‘should have’ achieved this or been acknowledged for this. This need for perfection or this sense of entitlement often leads people to focus only on what they haven’t done or what they don’t have. Striving for perfection can be a healthy, providing is remains within context and helps you to focus on moving forward in all aspects of your life.

As soon as striving for perfection or your sense of entitlement becomes your only goal, over all other aspects of your life, this process becomes unhealthy and often leads to heightened levels of stress, anxiety and anger amongst other things. This need for perfection or entitlement often takes a person’s focus away from moving forward, creating more challenges in other areas for your life. In addition, what happens once you have achieved perfection? Do you ever reach perfection?

Learning to accept what you have, what you have already achieved and how wonderful the things in your life are, certainly help towards feeling less stressed; helps you identify your many achievements or “wins” in life, as well as keeping your need for perfection appropriate and in focus.

Accepting what you have and have achieved brings a natural peace and a natural peace brings a sense of fulfillment and balance in life.

2. Gratitude

The above tip leads nicely onto tip 2 – gratitude.

In understanding what you do have and what have you have already achieved, ultimately leads you to be more grateful for the things and more importantly, the people you have in your life. Practising gratitude or appreciation brings with it benefits such as happiness, optimism and a way of staying in the moment.

Spending a little of your time each day, acknowledging at least one thing that you apprciate in your life – write it down, every day. Over time you will move towards a sense of fulfillment.

When focusing on what you have, what you are grateful for and what you appreciate rather than the things you don’t have, your mind has a better chance of pushing forward towards your goals, as it is not dealing with the emotions and negativity of not having.

3. Pause

It is fair to say that we are all busy and with all the challenges we have faced over the past 12 months (yes, it’s been that long!!), we feel ‘busy’ physically and mentally, as we manage all aspects of our lives. Equally, our devices and the need to stay in touch for many taken over sensibility. In additionally, for many, working from home has simply added to the sense of ‘busyness’, as boundaries for work-life balance are blurred, with little or no chance of escape.

Striving to ‘take time out’ or to hit the pause button, is essential for your mind and body. Whether you take a moment of your day, to pause and stay in a moment or you step back at the weekend, scheduled time out is necessary. A time when you simply unplug from the world, to remembering how amazing and beautiful life around you is, helps put everything back into perspective and nourishes balance and fulfillment.

4. Negativity

Life is an awesome space and achieving fulfillment in life is a common goal for many people. However, in life you also have many types of personalities and beliefs that at some time in your life served a purpose. However, through my coaching, I have found that for many people, they continue to hold on to personalities and beliefs that now serve to hold them back and limit the growth of a person.

Negative people in your life will ultimately stop you from achieving fulfillment, as they continue to impose their thoughts and attitudes onto you. In the same way, negative thoughts have the same impact.

Developing resilience and the strength to say ‘no’ to negative and toxic people and thoughts, will take you forward towards fulfillment and the life you are supposed to be living.

5. Make life simple

Sometimes, life is meant to be simple! Over analysing a situation or complicating a decision-making process can lead to stress, anxiety and occasionally infringe on other commitments leading to more stress. If you have a challenging situation to manage or a difficult decision to make, you may consider taking a moment to do another task or focus on something else, while your mind and your thoughts form. If life gets complicated, fulfillment and balance may become aspirational concepts.

6. Lifelong Learning

In order to life a fulfilling life, a curious and thirsty mind helps. As we broaden our knowledge and understanding of the world we live in and the people we meet, we equally gain a better understanding of ourselves and our place in the world around us. Learning helps us to gain perspective.

This deeper understand serves to support and guide us in creating a fulfilling life that grows and evolves over time, making fulfillment a sustainable state of mind.

If any of the above resonates with you and you are ready to move towards a fulfilled and more balanced life, call today to book a free discovery call on 07704 715229 or email at hello@rpbcoaching.com .